Maybe you’ve heard. SCOTUS legalized gay marriage in all 50 states. If you are on any sort of social media, half of your thread probably has something to do with this decision. It seems it is all I’ve heard about for a week, but I’ve said very little. Let me explain.
I have a gay friend who married his husband about a year ago in New Mexico. We were good friends in high school, and through the technology of Facebook, we have somewhat reconnected. He is, by far, much more active on social media than I am, and I read almost everything he posts or comments on. He is a decorated veteran, attorney, Christian, and activist, and has no use for the Christian community. There is a reason why those outside of the regular church-going crowd think we hate homosexuals. Any amount of time on social media in the last week revealed why they think that.
I wonder what further harm has been done.
I wonder if my friend feels hated by Christians, by me.
I wonder if we were sitting around a table (#LifetreeCafe), if my Christian brothers and sisters would treat him the same as they do on social media?
Social media disconnects us from the reality that our words are hurting real people. I’m reminded of something James said.
With the tweet we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same tweet come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be. (James 3: 9-10)
Or something like that. Maybe it’s time to unplug for a while. Have real conversations—the kind when you listen, laugh, hurt, love. Invite a friend to Lifetree Cafe. Come to Lifetree Cafe and meet some new friends. Maybe it’s time to make Jesus’ name famous, and be less concerned about making our point. Unplug.
There is another group of people who may be reading this newsletter—the ones who have been hurt by Christians. Lifetree Cafe may be the place for you too. You’re welcome just the way you are—with your doubts and hurts.
Come, have a cup of coffee. Be heard. Be loved.