Maybe the most terrifying words ever uttered.
No, not when Carol Anne Freeling was talking about the “TV people” in the 80s movie “Poltergeist.” It’s that moment when your relatives arrive for the holidays 30 minutes before you had planned. They are about to see how you REALLY live, with
- The kids’ toys on the floor
- 2 loads of laundry still in the baskets waiting to be folded
- Dishes littering every flat surface in your kitchen
You panic as you start to cram anything that isn’t nailed down into closets, the garage, and any cabinet that’s nearby. It’s at that moment you wonder why you agreed to host festivities this year. Here’s a thought that might help: you aren’t doing it to get a photo spread in Better Homes and Gardens. Hosting the relatives is a way of honoring them.
We’ve been talking about honor all month in the LAB. Honor is letting someone know you see how valuable they really are. When your relatives arrive, remember that our relationships are what matters. As family members visit for Thanksgiving, make it a point to show them how much you value them. Spend as much time in conversation as you do in the kitchen. For those outside the kitchen, look for ways to help and give positive words of affirmation to the cooks.